BC’s Premier Confidential Men’s Gay Support Group

ARE YOU GAY, BI-SEXUAL OR QUESTIONING? STRUGGLING WITH YOUR SEXUAL ORIENTATION OR STRUGGLING TO MAINTAIN YOUR STATUS QUO? DO YOU NEED SUPPORT AND WANT TO TALK

Hominum for Men FVC  is a confidential support and discussion group for Gay, Bi-sexual and Questioning Men coping with the challenges of being married, separated or single.
We do not practice group therapy but offer members an opportunity to discuss their concerns and share experiences in a safe atmosphere.

For meeting information and location, please call Art – 604-477-9553. If you would like to receive our monthly newsletter, email Art at aapearson@gmail.com

or visit our Facebook group https://facebook.com/groups/hominumformenfvc

A Life Lesson

by Scott Barthelmass

A young man went to seek an important position at a large Landscaping company. He passed the initial interview and was going to meet the director for the final interview. The director saw his resume, it was excellent. And asked,’ “Have you received a scholarship for school?”

The boy replied, “No”.
‘It was your father who paid for your studies? ”
Yes.’ He replied.
‘Where does your father work? ‘
 ‘My father is a Farmer’ and landscapes for fun.

The Director asked the young man to show him his hands.

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GetCheckedOnline

BC Centre for Disease Control (BCCDC)

GetCheckedOnline is a free and confidential online sexually transmitted infection (STI) testing service offered by the BC Centre for Disease Control (BCCDC). as part of the Provincial Health Services Authority. The BC Centre for Disease Control is located in Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada.

Clinical Prevention Services provides leadership for the treatment and prevention of sexually transmitted infections (STI) and HIV, and supports BC-wide efforts to control STI and HIV.

We operate two STI clinics in Vancouver and provide outreach clinical and prevention services in the Lower Mainland, community education programs, and consultation services for BC health care providers on STI management.

GetCheckedOnline has been developed to meet a growing need for easier access to STI testing in BC. The BCCDC has piloted GetCheckedOnline in select communities around British Columbia to evaluate its success and is now hoping to expand to other areas of the province.

https://getcheckedonline.com/Pages/HowGetCheckWorks.aspx

Time to get active

Well with the warmer weather finally arriving (at least I hope so) its time to drag the kayaks out and start getting a little exercise.

The video is taken on a local creek (Kanaka Creek Riverfront park) with a friends son. About 3 hrs round trip at a nice leisurely pace with a stop for snacks.
The instrument is a duduk (doo-DOOK) or tsiranapogh (ծիրանափող in Armenia) is a double reed apricot wood woodwind instrument native to Armenia

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OJihjJWutFI

Self-love: the antithesis to perfectionism

from MedicalNewsToday

“Why is self-love important?” you might ask. For many of us, self-love might sound like a luxury rather than a necessity — or a new-age fad for those with too much time on their hands.

Ironically, however, self-care and -compassion might actually be needed most by those of us who work too hard and who are constantly striving to surpass ourselves and grasp the shape-shifting phantasm of perfection.

Most of the time, when we’re being too hard on ourselves, we do it because we’re driven by a desire to excel and do everything right, all the time. This entails a lot of self-criticism, and that persecutory inner voice that constantly tells us how we could’ve done things better is a hallmark of perfectionism.

Studies have shown that perfectionists are at a higher risk of several illnesses, both physical and mental, and that self-compassion might free us from its grip. Therefore, perfectionism and self-compassion are inextricably linked.

This article will look at ways to dial down the former and boost the latter, with the conviction that doing so will help you to lead a happier, more fulfilled life.

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Do we choose to be gay?

Yes and no. We may not choose to be attracted to people of the same sex, but we can choose to hide that attraction or live openly as gay and lesbian people. There’s no reason to be proud of being gay. But living gay is something we should all celebrate.
By Jordan Roth – An Advocate.com exclusive posted February 12, 2004

If you could choose not to be gay, would you? Wait. Think about it for a second. The knee-jerk response is to assume battle positions and scream, ‘It’s not a choice! But that’s not the question though it may well reveal the answer. Maybe our rush to defensiveness exposes the implied conclusion: Because if it were, I wouldn’t choose it.

Scientists have been working overtime lately to prove what our bodies tell us every day: Sexual preference is a biological fact. The research shows that an identical twin of a gay person is twice as likely to be gay as a fraternal twin, that the brain anatomy of a gay man is measurably different from that of a straight man, that lesbians have finger lengths and blink reflexes that are more similar to those of men than of women, and that a man is more likely to be gay the more older brothers he has because of readjusted hormonal balances in his mother’s womb. These studies all point to the conclusion that homosexuality is either completely, or at least in some significant part, biologically determined.

It’s all good news. It’s all what we feel is true. It’s all what we want to hear: Being gay is not a choice, so you can’t try to change me and you can’t discriminate against me. But what do ,,,

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The Internalized Homophobia Of “Straight-Acting” Gay Men

From thinkqueerly.com

Straight-acting is a term for a same gender-attracted person who does not exhibit the appearance or mannerisms of what is seen as typical for gay people.

Queers United

If you’re an out and proud gay man— why would you label yourself as straight-acting?

This is the ultimate version of internalized homophobia for many gay men.

Ah yes, another Grindr profile with “straight-acting” or “Masc4Masc” in the description! I wonder if the guy who wrote that has a secret desire for drag queens? How emasculating!

“Ya I’m gay, but I’m a man, dude. I’m normal. I want a man, not a woman!”
That also rings misogynistic, which by the way is part of what homophobia is: a fear of anything that is not heteronormative, not defined by prescribed gender roles, or religious ideologies. Men should be men, and women… well, women know their place.

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Are gay pride parades/events still needed

I often hear that events/parades are passe. Human rights have come so far AND THEN you get a guy like this. Minister Bernard Wright and his followers.
A man of god spewing forth bullshit, lies, racism and ignorance.
And educators getting elected to School Boards that support continued ignorance.
And some even get elected as MPs, MLAs, Senators and Governors.
Sometimes I think the world is going backwards

BTW the Asian candidate this clown disses with no life experience:
Ty Penserga, Commissioner of the City of Boynton Beach, is a lifelong Floridian, scientist, and educator.  

Vice Mayor Penserga graduated from Temple University, Philadelphia where he earned his Bachelor’s degree in Chemistry and Biology. While in college, he served as Senator representing the College of Science to Temple’s Student Government. He received the prestigious Diamond Award for his leadership, community service, and the creation of a longitudinal mentoring pipeline to uplift underprivileged teens.   Prior to being elected, Penserga returned to Palm Beach County to work as a high school teacher, teaching both Chemistry and Biology to hundreds of students. He later attended Florida Atlantic University to earn his Master’s degree in Integrative Biology, and is currently working to complete his PhD in Neuroscience.

Seems the only one with no life experience is this red necked hick.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XtUwUtXtfak