BC’s Premier Confidential Men’s Gay Support Group


Hominum for Men FVC  is a confidential support and discussion group for Gay, Bi-sexual and Questioning Men coping with the challenges of being married, separated or single.
We do not practice group therapy but offer members an opportunity to discuss their concerns and share experiences in a safe atmosphere.

For meeting information and location, please call Art – 604-477-9553. If you would like to receive our monthly newsletter, email Art at aapearson@gmail.com

or visit our Facebook group https://facebook.com/groups/hominumformenfvc

Male Intimacy

Some men struggle with intimacy, as many men have been socialised to appear to be strong and in control. While intimacy encourages and enables vulnerability as you connect with another person. This perceived need for men to hide any weakness can interfere with their ability to experience a real closeness, since real intimacy always involves some degree of vulnerability

What is Intimacy

The experience of emotional closeness. It occurs when two people are able to be emotionally open with one another, and reveal their true feelings, thoughts, fears and desires. This can only occur when both people are able to genuinely trust one another, and feel able to take the risk of being vulnerable. It is a universal human need; without it we have the experience of loneliness. A perceived lack of intimacy is one of the most common reasons for relationship breakdowns.

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Kayaking on Stave Lake

Stave Lake lie on the eastern edge of Mission District. It is 30km long, the main lake being 21 and the west arm 9 km. We have kayaked the main lake for a bit (boring, mountains straight into the water.) We are now kayaking the west arm, it has gravel beaches, sand beaches, inflow from mountain streams and a few “fjords” to explore.

Some videos I created. It was 10 separate videos, compiled and then compressed into 3 videos.
I have attached the link to my youtube page, to save the data load on Hominum.

There are 2 copies of part 1 of 3……one with music and one without.
My videos can be seen here, Alouette River, Pitt RIver and Stave Lake.

My youtube channel-mainly kayaking

A looking back to the 80’s

Vancouver Pride way back when LOL

A selection from the photographs of Maxwell Victor Woolfrey Baker, known as Max Baker (March 23, 1945 – June 18, 1990). The collection shows public and private gay and lesbian events in the mid-late 1980s, include the 1985-88 Pride Parades, Vancouver Sea Festival 1987, 1990 Gay Games & a few others. Max Baker was born in Botwood, Newfoundland on March 23, 1945. He graduated from Mount Allison University with a B.A. and then worked in Ottawa with the Government of Canada in the Department of (then) Indian Affairs. He eventually took a transfer to Vancouver in the same department. A keen photographer, when Max died his photograph albums passed to Gary Gilbertson, an organizer in Vancouver’s gay community who was instrumental in raising awareness and funding for AIDS. It is likely that the photographs of the Gay Games were taken by Gary rather than Max. After Gary Gilbertson passed away in 1993, the collection passed through various hands in the Vancouver LGBT community, each of whom was eager to preserve what they recognised as a valuable record of their community in the 1980s. The collection was exhibited at Mole Hill Community Housing Society in 2019, and donated to the City of Vancouver Archives in 2020. If anyone requires any information about the collection, please contact Mole Hill at admin@molehillhousing.ca

A view of the distant past and the event.

Happy Pride Month

Have a Gay Ole Time

The original Rainbow Pride flags flew at the San Francisco Gay Freedom Day Parade celebration on June 25, 1978, and served as a symbol of the LGBTQ community.

The flag was designed by Gilbert Baker who served in the US Army from 1970 to 1972. In 1974 Baker met Harvey Milk and influential gay leader and soon to be Mayor of San Francisco. Milk would challenge Baker to devise a symbol of pride for the community to replace the pink triangle, the symbol the Nazi’s used in concentration camps to identify homosexuals.

Baker claimed he was inspired by the Rolling Stones song “She’s a Rainbow’ and was likely influenced by the ‘Flag of the Races’ popular in the World Peace movement at the time. The original flag contained 8 colors: Hot pink, Red, Orange, Yellow, Green, Turquoise, Indigo and Violet representing; Sex, Life, Healing, Sunlight, Nature, Magic, Serenity, and Spirit respectively. The most common version of the Flag contains 6 colors.

Ask the Expert.  “Am I too old to find love?”

Dr. Joe Kort

I’m 58 and have never had a lover, although I’ve always dreamed of having one.  Surely I must be doing something wrong? But I feel I’ve waited too long, and that today’s gay culture won’t now be interest in an old guy.  It seems that “attractive” and “successful” are the only attributes anyone cares about.

Am I unique in this search?  I live alone, have no relatives and few friends—most of them straight and most of them only at work.

Single-In in Spartanburg

Dear Singled-In,
I want to help become singled OUT!  So many gay men tell me they want a relationship, but what they really want is a…

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