BC’s Premier Confidential Men’s Gay Support Group

ARE YOU GAY, BI-SEXUAL OR QUESTIONING? STRUGGLING WITH YOUR SEXUAL ORIENTATION OR STRUGGLING TO MAINTAIN YOUR STATUS QUO? DO YOU NEED SUPPORT AND WANT TO TALK

Hominum for Men FVC  is a confidential support and discussion group for Gay, Bi-sexual and Questioning Men coping with the challenges of being married, separated or single.
We do not practice group therapy but offer members an opportunity to discuss their concerns and share experiences in a safe atmosphere.

For meeting information and location, please call Art – 604-477-9553. If you would like to receive our monthly newsletter, email Art at aapearson@gmail.com

or visit our Facebook group https://facebook.com/groups/hominumformenfvc

Mental Health and Suicide

LGBTQ+ adults and youth are more likely than their heterosexual peers to have mental health problems, and they are more at risk for substance use problems and suicide.

According to the Human Rights Campaign Foundation, stigma, discrimination and hostile laws that take away LGBTQ+ rights can drive up the rates of mental illness and suicide in the community.

But supportive, inclusive environments and a social network of friends, allies and chosen family can reduce these rates….

Continue reading.  https://www.drugwatch.com/health/lgbtq/#mental-health-and-suicide

Are Closeted Folks Fair Game Now?

People attack closeted LGBTQ individuals based on their own agendas. Posted March 19, 2021 | Joe Kort PhD

How times have changed for LGBTQ … or have they?

There is no doubt that we have seen an increase in acceptance of LGBTQ over the past two decades. I never thought in my lifetime that I would ever be accepted for being an out gay man nor be able to legally marry my husband of 28 years.

Of course, we still see people who are LGBTQ attacked by the culture at large for, of course, being LGBTQ. Hate crimes are on the rise nationally and according to the Human Rights Campaign, “Hate crimes based on sexual orientation represent 16.7% of hate crimes, the third-largest category after race and religion.”

While acceptance of us LGBTQ folks have risen, I’ve been surprised at how people who are perceived to be closeted gays are being attacked for being closeted!

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Manhood? Manliness?

Many of the famed quotes about manhood would be considered unhealthy now, but there’s still some gems out there. Here are just some of our faves.

“Ultimate vulnerability. That’s manly.”
– Cameron Conaway, cage fighter

“I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life and that is why I succeed.”
– Michael Jordan, athlete

“The heart of man is very much like the sea; it has its storms, it has its tides, and in its depths, it has its pearls too.”
– Vincent Van Gogh, artist

“Life is so damn short. For f***’s sake, just do what makes you happy.”
– Bill Murray, actor

“Try not to become a man of success, but rather try to become a man of value.”
– Albert Einstein, scientist

“The value of a man should be seen in what he gives and not in what he is able to receive.”
– Albert Einstein, scientist

“A man may conquer a million men in battle but one who conquers himself is, indeed, the greatest of conquerors.”
– Buddha, spiritual figure

“The greatest thing a man can possibly do in this world is to make the most possible out of the stuff that has been given him. This is success, and there is no other…”
– Orison Swett Marden, author and publisher

“Waste no more time arguing what a good man should be. Be one.”
– Marcus Aurelius, Roman emperor and philosopher

“No man stands so tall as when he stoops to help a child.”
– Abraham Lincoln, US President

“First find the man in yourself if you will inspire manliness in others.”
– Amos-Bronson-Alcott, teacher and philosopher

“There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self.”
– Ernest Hemingway, author

“It takes more courage to reveal insecurities than to hide them, more strength to relate to people than to dominate them, more ‘manhood’ to abide by thought-out principles rather than blind reflex. Toughness is in the soul and spirit, not in muscles and an immature mind.”
– Alex Karras, athlete, actor and author

Male Intimacy

Some men struggle with intimacy, as many men have been socialised to appear to be strong and in control. While intimacy encourages and enables vulnerability as you connect with another person. This perceived need for men to hide any weakness can interfere with their ability to experience a real closeness, since real intimacy always involves some degree of vulnerability

What is Intimacy

The experience of emotional closeness. It occurs when two people are able to be emotionally open with one another, and reveal their true feelings, thoughts, fears and desires. This can only occur when both people are able to genuinely trust one another, and feel able to take the risk of being vulnerable. It is a universal human need; without it we have the experience of loneliness. A perceived lack of intimacy is one of the most common reasons for relationship breakdowns.

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Kayaking on Stave Lake

Stave Lake lie on the eastern edge of Mission District. It is 30km long, the main lake being 21 and the west arm 9 km. We have kayaked the main lake for a bit (boring, mountains straight into the water.) We are now kayaking the west arm, it has gravel beaches, sand beaches, inflow from mountain streams and a few “fjords” to explore.

Some videos I created. It was 10 separate videos, compiled and then compressed into 3 videos.
I have attached the link to my youtube page, to save the data load on Hominum.

There are 2 copies of part 1 of 3……one with music and one without.
My videos can be seen here, Alouette River, Pitt RIver and Stave Lake.

My youtube channel-mainly kayaking

A looking back to the 80’s

Vancouver Pride way back when LOL

A selection from the photographs of Maxwell Victor Woolfrey Baker, known as Max Baker (March 23, 1945 – June 18, 1990). The collection shows public and private gay and lesbian events in the mid-late 1980s, include the 1985-88 Pride Parades, Vancouver Sea Festival 1987, 1990 Gay Games & a few others. Max Baker was born in Botwood, Newfoundland on March 23, 1945. He graduated from Mount Allison University with a B.A. and then worked in Ottawa with the Government of Canada in the Department of (then) Indian Affairs. He eventually took a transfer to Vancouver in the same department. A keen photographer, when Max died his photograph albums passed to Gary Gilbertson, an organizer in Vancouver’s gay community who was instrumental in raising awareness and funding for AIDS. It is likely that the photographs of the Gay Games were taken by Gary rather than Max. After Gary Gilbertson passed away in 1993, the collection passed through various hands in the Vancouver LGBT community, each of whom was eager to preserve what they recognised as a valuable record of their community in the 1980s. The collection was exhibited at Mole Hill Community Housing Society in 2019, and donated to the City of Vancouver Archives in 2020. If anyone requires any information about the collection, please contact Mole Hill at admin@molehillhousing.ca

A view of the distant past and the event.