BC’s Premier Confidential Men’s Gay Support Group


Hominum for Men FVC  is a confidential support and discussion group for Gay, Bi-sexual and Questioning Men coping with the challenges of being married, separated or single.
We do not practice group therapy but offer members an opportunity to discuss their concerns and share experiences in a safe atmosphere.

For meeting information and location, please call Art – 604-477-9553. If you would like to receive our monthly newsletter, email Art at aapearson@gmail.com

or visit our Facebook group https://facebook.com/groups/hominumformenfvc

Happy Pride Month

Have a Gay Ole Time

The original Rainbow Pride flags flew at the San Francisco Gay Freedom Day Parade celebration on June 25, 1978, and served as a symbol of the LGBTQ community.

The flag was designed by Gilbert Baker who served in the US Army from 1970 to 1972. In 1974 Baker met Harvey Milk and influential gay leader and soon to be Mayor of San Francisco. Milk would challenge Baker to devise a symbol of pride for the community to replace the pink triangle, the symbol the Nazi’s used in concentration camps to identify homosexuals.

Baker claimed he was inspired by the Rolling Stones song “She’s a Rainbow’ and was likely influenced by the ‘Flag of the Races’ popular in the World Peace movement at the time. The original flag contained 8 colors: Hot pink, Red, Orange, Yellow, Green, Turquoise, Indigo and Violet representing; Sex, Life, Healing, Sunlight, Nature, Magic, Serenity, and Spirit respectively. The most common version of the Flag contains 6 colors.

Ask the Expert.  “Am I too old to find love?”

Dr. Joe Kort

I’m 58 and have never had a lover, although I’ve always dreamed of having one.  Surely I must be doing something wrong? But I feel I’ve waited too long, and that today’s gay culture won’t now be interest in an old guy.  It seems that “attractive” and “successful” are the only attributes anyone cares about.

Am I unique in this search?  I live alone, have no relatives and few friends—most of them straight and most of them only at work.

Single-In in Spartanburg

Dear Singled-In,
I want to help become singled OUT!  So many gay men tell me they want a relationship, but what they really want is a…

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A Life Lesson

by Scott Barthelmass

A young man went to seek an important position at a large Landscaping company. He passed the initial interview and was going to meet the director for the final interview. The director saw his resume, it was excellent. And asked,’ “Have you received a scholarship for school?”

The boy replied, “No”.
‘It was your father who paid for your studies? ”
Yes.’ He replied.
‘Where does your father work? ‘
 ‘My father is a Farmer’ and landscapes for fun.

The Director asked the young man to show him his hands.

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BC Centre for Disease Control (BCCDC)

GetCheckedOnline is a free and confidential online sexually transmitted infection (STI) testing service offered by the BC Centre for Disease Control (BCCDC). as part of the Provincial Health Services Authority. The BC Centre for Disease Control is located in Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada.

Clinical Prevention Services provides leadership for the treatment and prevention of sexually transmitted infections (STI) and HIV, and supports BC-wide efforts to control STI and HIV.

We operate two STI clinics in Vancouver and provide outreach clinical and prevention services in the Lower Mainland, community education programs, and consultation services for BC health care providers on STI management.

GetCheckedOnline has been developed to meet a growing need for easier access to STI testing in BC. The BCCDC has piloted GetCheckedOnline in select communities around British Columbia to evaluate its success and is now hoping to expand to other areas of the province.


Time to get active

Well with the warmer weather finally arriving (at least I hope so) its time to drag the kayaks out and start getting a little exercise.

The video is taken on a local creek (Kanaka Creek Riverfront park) with a friends son. About 3 hrs round trip at a nice leisurely pace with a stop for snacks.
The instrument is a duduk (doo-DOOK) or tsiranapogh (ծիրանափող in Armenia) is a double reed apricot wood woodwind instrument native to Armenia


Self-love: the antithesis to perfectionism

from MedicalNewsToday

“Why is self-love important?” you might ask. For many of us, self-love might sound like a luxury rather than a necessity — or a new-age fad for those with too much time on their hands.

Ironically, however, self-care and -compassion might actually be needed most by those of us who work too hard and who are constantly striving to surpass ourselves and grasp the shape-shifting phantasm of perfection.

Most of the time, when we’re being too hard on ourselves, we do it because we’re driven by a desire to excel and do everything right, all the time. This entails a lot of self-criticism, and that persecutory inner voice that constantly tells us how we could’ve done things better is a hallmark of perfectionism.

Studies have shown that perfectionists are at a higher risk of several illnesses, both physical and mental, and that self-compassion might free us from its grip. Therefore, perfectionism and self-compassion are inextricably linked.

This article will look at ways to dial down the former and boost the latter, with the conviction that doing so will help you to lead a happier, more fulfilled life.

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