Gay and Bisexual Men’s Health Issues

Research has shown that the following are some of the most common health concerns faced by gay and bisexual men. While they may not all apply to each individual, they are important concerns for men and their health care providers to be aware of. 

Intimate Partner Violence

Intimate partner violence takes many forms but involves physical or emotional harm by a significant other — usually a boyfriend, girlfriend, ex-boyfriend, ex-girlfriend or date. Typically, intimate partner violence begins with verbal threats and escalates to physical abuse, which is why it’s important to recognize it early and get help as soon as possible. Intimate partner violence often involves manipulation and control…… Continue reading “Gay and Bisexual Men’s Health Issues”

10 Rules for the School of Life

1. You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called Life.  Each day you will have the opportunity to learn lessons. You may like the lessons or think your assignments are stupid and irrelevant but each one has a purpose that is special for you.

2. An assignment will be repeated until you have learned that lesson. Do  you find yourself experiencing the same (unpleasant) event again and again? One of your current learning projects is to discover whatever you need to do so it either stops happening or no longer affects you .

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Why do so many gay men struggle to find the relationship they crave so much?


Looking for love in a modern gay world…

In a world almost obsessed with love, why do so many gay men struggle to find the relationship they crave so much?

It’s no secret relationships can be harder to find in the LGBT+ community, but I’m tired of seeing articles saying ‘gay men are incapable of love’ and ‘monogamy is over’.

The way we date, meet people and socially interact is forever changing, we often forget that we have to adjust to the landscape we’re now surrounded with. Relationships, sex and sexuality are evolving. But that doesn’t mean you have to change what you want. The kind of relationship you want is down to you. As long as all parties are open and stick to the rules, they work. Whether it’s monogamous or open, honesty is always the key. Continue reading “Why do so many gay men struggle to find the relationship they crave so much?”

Vrolijk Kerstfeest

Or in plain English Merry Christmas and 300+ other languages.

Afrikaans Geseende Kerfees en ‘n gelukkige nuwe jaar
Ahtna C’ehwggelnen Dzaen
Albanian Gëzuar Krishlindjet Vitin e Ri!
Aleut Kamgan Ukudigaa
Alsatian E gueti Wïnâchte & E glecklichs Nej Johr!
Alur Wafoyo Kado Oro & Wafoyo Tundo Oro manyeni
Alutiiq Spraasnikam & Amlertut Kiaget!
Amharic Melkam Yelidet Beaal
Amuesha Yomprocha’ ya’ nataya
Angami U kenei Christmas mu teicie kes a u sie teicie kesa u sie niepete keluo shuzaie we
Apache(Western) Gozhqq Keshmish
Arabic I’D Miilad Said ous Sana Saida
Aragonese Nabidà! & Goyosa Añada benién.
Aramaic Edo bri’cho o rish d’shato brich’to!
Aranés Bon Nadau!
Arawak Aba satho niw jari da’wisida bon
Armenian Shenoraavor Nor Dari yev Soorp Janunt
Aromanian Crãciunu hãriosu shi unu anu nãu, bunu!
Asturian Bones Navidaes & Gayoleru anu nuevu!
Assamese Rongaali Bihur xubhessaa lobo
Ata Maroyan na Pasko woy kaopia an ng Bag ong Tuig kaniyo’t langon mga sulod
Aukan Wi e winsi i wan bun nyun yali
Aymara Sooma Nawira ra
Azeri Tezze Iliniz Yahsi Olsun
Bafut Mboni Chrismen & Mboni Alooyefee
Bahasa/Malaysia Selamat Hari Natal dan Tahun Baru
Bamoun Poket Kristmet & Poket lum mfe
Banen Enganda ye hiono mes & Hion Hios Hes
Bandang Mbung Mbung Krismie & Mbung Mbung Ngouh Suiie
Basque Zorionak eta Urte Berri On!
Bassa Ngand Nwi Lam & Mwi Lam
Batak Karo Mejuah juah Ketuahen Natal
Bemba Kristu abe nenu muli ino nshiku nkulu ya Mwezi
Belorussian Winshuyu sa Svyatkami i z Novym godam!
Bengali Shuvo Baro Din Shuvo Nabo Barsho
Bhojpuri Naya Sal Mubarak Ho
Bicolano Maugmang Capascuhan asin Masaganang Ba gong Taon!
Bislama Mi wisim yufala eerywan one gutfala Krismas & mo wan hapi New Year long
Blaan Pye duh di kaut Kristo klu munt ug Felemi Fali!
Blackfoot I’Taamomohkatoyiiksistsikomi
Bohemian/Czech Prejeme Vam Vesele Vanoce a Stastny novy rok
Brahui Arkas caik xuda are
Breton Nedeleg laouen na bloav ezh mat
Bulgarian Chestita Koleda i Shtastliva Nova Godina
Bulu Duma e bo’o
Bura e be Zambe e Usa ma ka Kirisimassu
Catalan Bon nadal i feliç any nou!
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The Importance of Being Yourself

Jeff Barton Mar 29, 2018

I have a friend who wants to go out to the clubs and pesters me often about going with him. He’s at a place in his life where those things are attractive to him since he recently got divorced. But that isn’t me. It’s not who I am.

If I was 20 years younger, then I might go. But I don’t like to do those things now, so I say no every time. I have no problem going for a beer occasionally, hanging out together at one another’s house or going for a run, but the clubs are not me.

So if I gave in, I wouldn’t be doing myself any favors. I would be miserable the whole time and ready to go home as soon as I got there. If I gave in, I wouldn’t be myself. I would cater to his needs, not mine.

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A Therapist Speaks About Mental Health After Pandemic Reopening

JULY 6, 2021
By Ray Hsu

I recently had a chance to chat with Duncan Kleist, a Registered Clinicial Counsellor based in Vancouver, who is now focused on building his practice. He’s a practitioner, but it’s also clear that he’s a teacher in the grandest sense of the word.

We discussed where to find mental health resources for LGBTQI2S+ folks and what to expect from a post-pandemic–or at least post-reopening–world.

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Why some LGBTQ people feel especially stressed at the holidays — and 7 things they can do about it

Expert tips on how to tamp down on depression and anxiety this holiday season.
Dec. 23, 2018, 12:53 PM PST By Alexander Kacala

The holiday season can be especially triggering for many people, but LGBTQ people are more likely than their non-LGBTQ counterparts to experience stress, anxiety and depression during this time of the year. Research shows that LGBTQ people are more likely to experience these symptoms year round, but numerous mental health providers say that the holiday season, especially returning home for the holidays, can exacerbate these symptoms. Continue reading “Why some LGBTQ people feel especially stressed at the holidays — and 7 things they can do about it”