Yes and no. We may not choose to be attracted to people of the same sex, but we can choose to hide that attraction or live openly as gay and lesbian people. There’s no reason to be proud of being gay. But living gay is something we should all celebrate.
By Jordan Roth – An Advocate.com exclusive posted February 12, 2004
If you could choose not to be gay, would you? Wait. Think about it for a second. The knee-jerk response is to assume battle positions and scream, ‘It’s not a choice! But that’s not the question though it may well reveal the answer. Maybe our rush to defensiveness exposes the implied conclusion: Because if it were, I wouldn’t choose it.
Scientists have been working overtime lately to prove what our bodies tell us every day: Sexual preference is a biological fact. The research shows that an identical twin of a gay person is twice as likely to be gay as a fraternal twin, that the brain anatomy of a gay man is measurably different from that of a straight man, that lesbians have finger lengths and blink reflexes that are more similar to those of men than of women, and that a man is more likely to be gay the more older brothers he has because of readjusted hormonal balances in his mother’s womb. These studies all point to the conclusion that homosexuality is either completely, or at least in some significant part, biologically determined.
It’s all good news. It’s all what we feel is true. It’s all what we want to hear: Being gay is not a choice, so you can’t try to change me and you can’t discriminate against me. But what do ,,,
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