Male Intimacy

Some men struggle with intimacy, as many men have been socialised to appear to be strong and in control. While intimacy encourages and enables vulnerability as you connect with another person. This perceived need for men to hide any weakness can interfere with their ability to experience a real closeness, since real intimacy always involves some degree of vulnerability

What is Intimacy

The experience of emotional closeness. It occurs when two people are able to be emotionally open with one another, and reveal their true feelings, thoughts, fears and desires. This can only occur when both people are able to genuinely trust one another, and feel able to take the risk of being vulnerable. It is a universal human need; without it we have the experience of loneliness. A perceived lack of intimacy is one of the most common reasons for relationship breakdowns.

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Kayaking on Stave Lake

Stave Lake lie on the eastern edge of Mission District. It is 30km long, the main lake being 21 and the west arm 9 km. We have kayaked the main lake for a bit (boring, mountains straight into the water.) We are now kayaking the west arm, it has gravel beaches, sand beaches, inflow from mountain streams and a few “fjords” to explore.

Some videos I created. It was 10 separate videos, compiled and then compressed into 3 videos.
I have attached the link to my youtube page, to save the data load on Hominum.

There are 2 copies of part 1 of 3……one with music and one without.
My videos can be seen here, Alouette River, Pitt RIver and Stave Lake.

My youtube channel-mainly kayaking

A looking back to the 80’s

Vancouver Pride way back when LOL

A selection from the photographs of Maxwell Victor Woolfrey Baker, known as Max Baker (March 23, 1945 – June 18, 1990). The collection shows public and private gay and lesbian events in the mid-late 1980s, include the 1985-88 Pride Parades, Vancouver Sea Festival 1987, 1990 Gay Games & a few others. Max Baker was born in Botwood, Newfoundland on March 23, 1945. He graduated from Mount Allison University with a B.A. and then worked in Ottawa with the Government of Canada in the Department of (then) Indian Affairs. He eventually took a transfer to Vancouver in the same department. A keen photographer, when Max died his photograph albums passed to Gary Gilbertson, an organizer in Vancouver’s gay community who was instrumental in raising awareness and funding for AIDS. It is likely that the photographs of the Gay Games were taken by Gary rather than Max. After Gary Gilbertson passed away in 1993, the collection passed through various hands in the Vancouver LGBT community, each of whom was eager to preserve what they recognised as a valuable record of their community in the 1980s. The collection was exhibited at Mole Hill Community Housing Society in 2019, and donated to the City of Vancouver Archives in 2020. If anyone requires any information about the collection, please contact Mole Hill at

A view of the distant past and the event.