Male Intimacy

Some men struggle with intimacy, as many men have been socialised to appear to be strong and in control. While intimacy encourages and enables vulnerability as you connect with another person. This perceived need for men to hide any weakness can interfere with their ability to experience a real closeness, since real intimacy always involves some degree of vulnerability

What is Intimacy

The experience of emotional closeness. It occurs when two people are able to be emotionally open with one another, and reveal their true feelings, thoughts, fears and desires. This can only occur when both people are able to genuinely trust one another, and feel able to take the risk of being vulnerable. It is a universal human need; without it we have the experience of loneliness. A perceived lack of intimacy is one of the most common reasons for relationship breakdowns.

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Happy Pride Month

Have a Gay Ole Time

The original Rainbow Pride flags flew at the San Francisco Gay Freedom Day Parade celebration on June 25, 1978, and served as a symbol of the LGBTQ community.

The flag was designed by Gilbert Baker who served in the US Army from 1970 to 1972. In 1974 Baker met Harvey Milk and influential gay leader and soon to be Mayor of San Francisco. Milk would challenge Baker to devise a symbol of pride for the community to replace the pink triangle, the symbol the Nazi’s used in concentration camps to identify homosexuals.

Baker claimed he was inspired by the Rolling Stones song “She’s a Rainbow’ and was likely influenced by the ‘Flag of the Races’ popular in the World Peace movement at the time. The original flag contained 8 colors: Hot pink, Red, Orange, Yellow, Green, Turquoise, Indigo and Violet representing; Sex, Life, Healing, Sunlight, Nature, Magic, Serenity, and Spirit respectively. The most common version of the Flag contains 6 colors.

Ask the Expert.  “Am I too old to find love?”

Dr. Joe Kort

I’m 58 and have never had a lover, although I’ve always dreamed of having one.  Surely I must be doing something wrong? But I feel I’ve waited too long, and that today’s gay culture won’t now be interest in an old guy.  It seems that “attractive” and “successful” are the only attributes anyone cares about.

Am I unique in this search?  I live alone, have no relatives and few friends—most of them straight and most of them only at work.

Single-In in Spartanburg

Dear Singled-In,
I want to help become singled OUT!  So many gay men tell me they want a relationship, but what they really want is a…

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Do we choose to be gay?

Yes and no. We may not choose to be attracted to people of the same sex, but we can choose to hide that attraction or live openly as gay and lesbian people. There’s no reason to be proud of being gay. But living gay is something we should all celebrate.
By Jordan Roth – An Advocate.com exclusive posted February 12, 2004

If you could choose not to be gay, would you? Wait. Think about it for a second. The knee-jerk response is to assume battle positions and scream, ‘It’s not a choice! But that’s not the question though it may well reveal the answer. Maybe our rush to defensiveness exposes the implied conclusion: Because if it were, I wouldn’t choose it.

Scientists have been working overtime lately to prove what our bodies tell us every day: Sexual preference is a biological fact. The research shows that an identical twin of a gay person is twice as likely to be gay as a fraternal twin, that the brain anatomy of a gay man is measurably different from that of a straight man, that lesbians have finger lengths and blink reflexes that are more similar to those of men than of women, and that a man is more likely to be gay the more older brothers he has because of readjusted hormonal balances in his mother’s womb. These studies all point to the conclusion that homosexuality is either completely, or at least in some significant part, biologically determined.

It’s all good news. It’s all what we feel is true. It’s all what we want to hear: Being gay is not a choice, so you can’t try to change me and you can’t discriminate against me. But what do ,,,

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The Internalized Homophobia Of “Straight-Acting” Gay Men

From thinkqueerly.com

Straight-acting is a term for a same gender-attracted person who does not exhibit the appearance or mannerisms of what is seen as typical for gay people.

Queers United

If you’re an out and proud gay man— why would you label yourself as straight-acting?

This is the ultimate version of internalized homophobia for many gay men.

Ah yes, another Grindr profile with “straight-acting” or “Masc4Masc” in the description! I wonder if the guy who wrote that has a secret desire for drag queens? How emasculating!

“Ya I’m gay, but I’m a man, dude. I’m normal. I want a man, not a woman!”
That also rings misogynistic, which by the way is part of what homophobia is: a fear of anything that is not heteronormative, not defined by prescribed gender roles, or religious ideologies. Men should be men, and women… well, women know their place.

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Are gay pride parades/events still needed

I often hear that events/parades are passe. Human rights have come so far AND THEN you get a guy like this. Minister Bernard Wright and his followers.
A man of god spewing forth bullshit, lies, racism and ignorance.
And educators getting elected to School Boards that support continued ignorance.
And some even get elected as MPs, MLAs, Senators and Governors.
Sometimes I think the world is going backwards

BTW the Asian candidate this clown disses with no life experience:
Ty Penserga, Commissioner of the City of Boynton Beach, is a lifelong Floridian, scientist, and educator.  

Vice Mayor Penserga graduated from Temple University, Philadelphia where he earned his Bachelor’s degree in Chemistry and Biology. While in college, he served as Senator representing the College of Science to Temple’s Student Government. He received the prestigious Diamond Award for his leadership, community service, and the creation of a longitudinal mentoring pipeline to uplift underprivileged teens.   Prior to being elected, Penserga returned to Palm Beach County to work as a high school teacher, teaching both Chemistry and Biology to hundreds of students. He later attended Florida Atlantic University to earn his Master’s degree in Integrative Biology, and is currently working to complete his PhD in Neuroscience.

Seems the only one with no life experience is this red necked hick.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XtUwUtXtfak