Do we choose to be gay?

Yes and no. We may not choose to be attracted to people of the same sex, but we can choose to hide that attraction or live openly as gay and lesbian people. There’s no reason to be proud of being gay. But living gay is something we should all celebrate.
By Jordan Roth – An Advocate.com exclusive posted February 12, 2004

If you could choose not to be gay, would you? Wait. Think about it for a second. The knee-jerk response is to assume battle positions and scream, ‘It’s not a choice! But that’s not the question though it may well reveal the answer. Maybe our rush to defensiveness exposes the implied conclusion: Because if it were, I wouldn’t choose it.

Scientists have been working overtime lately to prove what our bodies tell us every day: Sexual preference is a biological fact. The research shows that an identical twin of a gay person is twice as likely to be gay as a fraternal twin, that the brain anatomy of a gay man is measurably different from that of a straight man, that lesbians have finger lengths and blink reflexes that are more similar to those of men than of women, and that a man is more likely to be gay the more older brothers he has because of readjusted hormonal balances in his mother’s womb. These studies all point to the conclusion that homosexuality is either completely, or at least in some significant part, biologically determined.

It’s all good news. It’s all what we feel is true. It’s all what we want to hear: Being gay is not a choice, so you can’t try to change me and you can’t discriminate against me. But what do ,,,

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The Internalized Homophobia Of “Straight-Acting” Gay Men

From thinkqueerly.com

Straight-acting is a term for a same gender-attracted person who does not exhibit the appearance or mannerisms of what is seen as typical for gay people.

Queers United

If you’re an out and proud gay man— why would you label yourself as straight-acting?

This is the ultimate version of internalized homophobia for many gay men.

Ah yes, another Grindr profile with “straight-acting” or “Masc4Masc” in the description! I wonder if the guy who wrote that has a secret desire for drag queens? How emasculating!

“Ya I’m gay, but I’m a man, dude. I’m normal. I want a man, not a woman!”
That also rings misogynistic, which by the way is part of what homophobia is: a fear of anything that is not heteronormative, not defined by prescribed gender roles, or religious ideologies. Men should be men, and women… well, women know their place.

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Are gay pride parades/events still needed

I often hear that events/parades are passe. Human rights have come so far AND THEN you get a guy like this. Minister Bernard Wright and his followers.
A man of god spewing forth bullshit, lies, racism and ignorance.
And educators getting elected to School Boards that support continued ignorance.
And some even get elected as MPs, MLAs, Senators and Governors.
Sometimes I think the world is going backwards

BTW the Asian candidate this clown disses with no life experience:
Ty Penserga, Commissioner of the City of Boynton Beach, is a lifelong Floridian, scientist, and educator.  

Vice Mayor Penserga graduated from Temple University, Philadelphia where he earned his Bachelor’s degree in Chemistry and Biology. While in college, he served as Senator representing the College of Science to Temple’s Student Government. He received the prestigious Diamond Award for his leadership, community service, and the creation of a longitudinal mentoring pipeline to uplift underprivileged teens.   Prior to being elected, Penserga returned to Palm Beach County to work as a high school teacher, teaching both Chemistry and Biology to hundreds of students. He later attended Florida Atlantic University to earn his Master’s degree in Integrative Biology, and is currently working to complete his PhD in Neuroscience.

Seems the only one with no life experience is this red necked hick.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XtUwUtXtfak

What Does It Mean to Be a Gay Man?

Coming out means valuing your “difference” more than others’ approval.
Posted March 1, 2018 by John-Manuel Andriote
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/stonewall-strong/201803/what-does-it-mean-be-gay-man

So many gay men grow up believing there is something “wrong” with us because we are different from other supposedly “normal” males. We expend considerable energy hiding our genuine selves from everyone around us—including those who care about us and, too often and most insidiously, from ourselves.

We project an image we believe will let us fit in with those whose approval we seek. It’s not surprising that a term like “straight-acting” shows up so often in gay men’s online personal ads. It presumably means the advertiser considers himself a “real” man—real, that is, according to a standard of masculinity he doesn’t attribute to other gay men.

American males of all sexual orientations are raised in a culture that insists the only way to be a man is to be “manly,” which typically requires denying our fear, loneliness, tenderness, and need for love, and projecting an attitude of invincibility. Harvard psychologist William Pollack calls it the “Boy Code,” the messages instilled in a million ways from our youngest age telling us that “real” boys must keep a stiff upper lip, not show their feelings, act tough, and be cool.

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Sexual Orientation and Weight

Stats Canada

In 2018, 26.8% of Canadians 18 and older (roughly 7.3 million adults) reported height and weight that classified them as obese. Another 9.9 million adults (36.3%) were classified as overweight – bringing the total population with increased health risks due to excess weight to 63.1% in 2018. This was an increase from 2015 where 61.9% of Canadians aged 18 and older were overweight or obese

Maybe some good news 
Article by Linda Carroll (2010-numbers have been climbing since then)

In a famous episode of “Seinfeld,” Jerry complains that people constantly assume he’s gay because he’s single, obsessively neat — and thin. As it turns out, at least part of that punchline may be anchored in fact.

A new study shows that gay men really are leaner than straight men. And conversely, it also found that gay women tend to be heavier than their heterosexual counterparts.

Boston researchers determined that gay men were 50 percent less likely to be obese compared to their heterosexual counterparts, according to a report published in the American Journal of Public Health.
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‘NO WORDS’: GAY AUSTRALIAN FOOTBALLER JOSH CAVALLO CALLS OUT HOMOPHOBIC CROWD ABUSE 1/8/22 | THE GUARDIAN – Mike Hytner

Adelaide United player targeted in game at Melbourne Victory Cavallo says those who abused him should be held accountable

Josh Cavallo during the game at AAMI Park. He wrote on Instagram that he received homophobic abuse from crowd members at the stadium on Saturday night.

Josh Cavallo, who last year became the only openly gay professional top flight men’s footballer in the world, says he has “no words” to describe his disappointment at being targeted by homophobic abuse during an A-League Men game over the weekend.

The Adelaide United player came on as a second-half substitute during the Reds’ away game at Melbourne Victory on Saturday night and said afterwards that he had received abuse from the crowd at AAMI Park. Continue reading “‘NO WORDS’: GAY AUSTRALIAN FOOTBALLER JOSH CAVALLO CALLS OUT HOMOPHOBIC CROWD ABUSE 1/8/22 | THE GUARDIAN – Mike Hytner”

Gay and Bisexual Men’s Health Issues

Research has shown that the following are some of the most common health concerns faced by gay and bisexual men. While they may not all apply to each individual, they are important concerns for men and their health care providers to be aware of. 

Intimate Partner Violence

Intimate partner violence takes many forms but involves physical or emotional harm by a significant other — usually a boyfriend, girlfriend, ex-boyfriend, ex-girlfriend or date. Typically, intimate partner violence begins with verbal threats and escalates to physical abuse, which is why it’s important to recognize it early and get help as soon as possible. Intimate partner violence often involves manipulation and control…… Continue reading “Gay and Bisexual Men’s Health Issues”

10 Rules for the School of Life

1. You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called Life.  Each day you will have the opportunity to learn lessons. You may like the lessons or think your assignments are stupid and irrelevant but each one has a purpose that is special for you.

2. An assignment will be repeated until you have learned that lesson. Do  you find yourself experiencing the same (unpleasant) event again and again? One of your current learning projects is to discover whatever you need to do so it either stops happening or no longer affects you .

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