December- Have you been a good boy?

Hello everyone…..

It is early morning on December 1st and I had best take my fingers over this keyboard or Mr. Editor will be writing a letter to Santa Claus and he won’t be telling him he has been a good “boy”, but rather that I have been naughty (but nice) in not writing my Christmas message to you.  This special season creeps up on us more quickly each year as we advance in age and I think we have to make a concerted effort to “get with it” despite all the commercialism we see every day.  Regardless how you might celebrate this time of year, I hope it is joyful for you.

New and exciting happenings in the New Year are in the offing for Hominum.  Our aim is to bring an awareness of Hominum to more men every day.  We have been steadily growing in weekly meeting participants and in view of the lesser number of members being able to accommodate meetings and furthermore the unavailability of sufficient space in member homes, in January we will be having the first meeting of the month in New Westminster.  The third Monday of the month in January we will meet at downtown,  same time as usual – 7:30 pm.   Watch the newsletter for details on the other Monday meeting locations.

Watch for an announcement for our newly revised website.   It is taking more time than originally expected, but we want to make sure we have the best possible content.

Early in the New Year we hope to announce a second “Moving forward” program coordinated by HIM (Health Initiatives for Men) in co-operation with Hominum.  This personal growth program will follow a similar format to last year.  Please spread the word among your friends and suggest they contact HIM for registration priority – first come, first served!  It is anticipated the program will fill up quickly.

We are exploring the possibility of a new project for Hominum.  We are all aware that care facilities for aged queers (and I use that term, because we as olders need to become better acquainted and accepting of that all-inclusive term) is non-existent other than integrating in day to day society.  We hear on a regular basis the acceptance among the other residents is not necessarily the friendliest.  Furthermore, the staffs of these residences are not sufficiently trained in acceptance of the integration.  That’s where we would like to come in this milieu ….that of working with residence management in promotion of a better acceptance within the community.  We will keep you posted!

We keenly look forward to a new Hominum year in January and in the interim, Merry Christmas and Happy New year,

November Movember

Dear HOMINUM friends.  Here is my report to this year’s AGM.

Fellow Hominum attendees……Here I am attempting to do a Chairman’s report after 12 months …..where has the time gone?  When I reflect on the year, I personally feel it has been a slow, but steady growth and the best is yet to come.

Perhaps the most significant has been the teaming with Health Initiatives for Men (HIM) in sponsoring an 8 week personal growth program “Moving Forward”.  Thank you all for your input!   The outcome of that program brought a new awareness of Hominum and we are pleased and happy to welcome a number of new members from that group who continue their journey.  We maintain that invaluable association with HIM and hope for another similar program in the forthcoming months.

In June, a Think Tank Committee met and brought forward a number of changes/improvements in our meeting format.  Without doubt, the most significant recommendation which is being actioned at the moment is the revision of our website.  It is my hope that each of you has had your thinking cap on and will have input in this evening’s discussion of the future direction of Hominum which will be considered by the Board and that accepted, incorporated in the website.

On two occasions during the year we adopted housekeeping initiatives which are being followed in our meeting routines.  We have had a steady increase in attendance at Monday meetings over the year.  Our discussions have been lively and our vibrant guest speakers brought an abundance of information to the forefront.  We have introduced two new promotional tools….a bookmark and a postcard which were distributed at gay pride festivities in Vancouver, Surrey and New West and currently being placed in appropriate locations frequented by gay men.  While it is difficult to measure the value of our attendance at Gay Pride events, it is of utmost importance that we are visible and have a presence.  It is my hope that we continue with our attendance at such events and widen our scope of participation in other such sponsored appropriate events around town.

The year has had its challenges, but what is achievable without its detours and constant dedication to a goal?  I thank you for your co-operation and input…..Hominum is YOU and I together working toward a better life for those following in our footsteps and as another year approaches I see a thrust in our efforts to bring more awareness of Hominum offering that which we continue to believe in…….our credo!

Thank you, 

HOMINUM HIM Poster 2013

BC’s Premier Confidential Men’s Gay Support Group

ARE YOU GAY, BI-SEXUAL OR QUESTIONING? STRUGGLING WITH YOUR SEXUAL ORIENTATION OR STRUGGLING TO MAINTAIN YOUR STATUS QUO? DO YOU NEED SUPPORT AND WANT TO TALK

Hominum for Men FVC  is a confidential support and discussion group for Gay, Bi-sexual and Questioning Men coping with the challenges of being married, separated or single.
We do not practice group therapy but offer members an opportunity to discuss their concerns and share experiences in a safe atmosphere.

For meeting information and location, please call Art – 604-477-9553. If you would like to receive our monthly newsletter, email Art at aapearson@gmail.com

or visit our Facebook group https://facebook.com/groups/hominumformenfvc

October Is a B00-tiful Time of Year

 

Happy Fall and Halloween…..

As I gaze out my window the maple trees in view are being painted by Jack Frost, and appear a more vibrant red each morning. may be a tad early to say Happy Halloween, but it is time to think of that costume for our Annual General Meeting on Oct. 29th. I rescued mine the other day and will air it for the next few weeks while I will be away….could not have anyone be overcome with the aroma of moth balls. the fun……I hear there will be a prize for the best costume voted by those in attendance!

You have read we are working on a revised Hominum website….the cost of which will be covered by our appeal for anonymous donations from members and friends of Hominum. ask for your support…. any donation, no matter how big or how small, is appreciated. would like to have your suggestions for input of content……perhaps you have seen something you favored in another site and found particularly useful which in some way might be applicable to our site.

Each and every member and friend of Hominum is welcome to contribute to the overall content of our support group. , our organizer of Monday meetings would very much appreciate any idea of topics you would like to see covered. speakers are always appropriate and if you know of someone, please pass the name along to George. course, we are always looking for hosts and offers are very much appreciated.

Have a good month and we look forward to seeing YOU on October 29th….

September is Special

Happy September!

I don’t know about you, but there are different times of the year when I more or less do an assessment of my personal life …..one is definitely just before the New Year, another is with the change of the Seasons, and in particular the beginning of September which is upon us all too quickly at the moment.  What new and exciting should I bring into my life this Fall?  I’ve been searching and assessing, but no decisions.  They will come at some unexpected moment.

We have our Gay Pride events behind us for the season – Vancouver Pride, New West Pride, Surrey Pride, our Annual Summer Salmon B’Q.  Thank you to everyone who actively participated and a vote of thanks to those, who once again hosted our B’Q for the 15th time.  Last evening was the wind up of the Gay Film Festival and if you have not attended, seriously you have  missed out big time.

Attendance at our Monday meetings continues to expand…..the more, the merrier!

Till, next month, Happy September.

August Pride

Time to say hello once again and what should be my main thrust in this message?

I can think of nothing more appropriate at the moment than Gay Pride. Just what is Gay Pride? In the most simplistic form I see it as being happy and content with what and who you are as a gay and taking pride in that fact.

I’ve done a bit of research;

As a noun….a sense of dignity and satisfaction in connection with the public acknowledgment of one’s own homosexuality;

Is the positive stance against discrimination and violence toward lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people to promote their self-affirmation, equality rights, increase their visibility as a social group, build community and celebrate sexual diversity and gender variance;

Pride, as opposed to shame and social stigma, is the predominant outlook that bolsters most GLBT rights movements throughout the world;

A political movement that began in the U.S. and encourages gay people to be open to the fact that they are gay and to be proud of themselves; (from adictionary of contemporary English).

I firmly believe the latter, the more elegant, is perhaps the all- encompassing factor for me.

We should all take pride in anything which we do bearing in mind any- thing worth doing is worth doing well.

A job well done regardless how small a task it might be is a credit to the individual. I’m not sure individ- uals think much about the word “pride” in their day to day life…..give yourself a pat on the back for a job well done. You will be surprised how it will boost your morale and self-confidence.